Even after my several years of experience with cancer it never ceases to amaze me how oblivious to the symptoms I can be. Especially when they’re being waved in front of my face like a checkered flag. I’ll get a bit more into that further on. Otherwise I also wrapped up my chemotherapy sessions. This, of course, means that I get the round of CT scans and MRIs followed by the traditional ‘wait and see’ phase that follows. A full torso/abdomen checkup and a brain scan to cross our T’s and dot our I’s. Last Thursday was the CT scan, Monday was the MRI. I’m so very accustomed to these, though, that I choose to not worry and panic over the wait for results. See, going through cancer you have to wait…a lot. Blood tests, scans, samples from tumors and biopsies. When I first started this almost twenty years ago the wait was sometimes two weeks to a month and it was absolutely excruciating. Sometimes it’d be even longer. Presently it’s typically a week at the most, sometimes shorter than that if my doctor wants to fill me in and move me through the process of things quicker. He’s quite good at keeping me in the loop, even if it means Sunday night phone calls
So instead of fretting I move forward with my plans.
On Saturday, before my son set off to summer camp for the first time, we got to meet and partially pay for our newest member of the family. She is a beautiful Great Dane that we’ve dubbed ‘Anora’. All black save for a few white specs here and there and has, to my delight, dubbed me as hers. If I sit in her vicinity she is my shadow, on my feet curled up, or snuggling into my lap. If I’m not careful I will have an over-sized lap dog in a year. Oddly enough, I’m not too distraught about this.
Before picking up our newest addition, legs and all (and her legs are exceptionally long!), Jenn and I took my youngest minion to the coast. It was…admittedly exhausting but at the same time lots of fun. Due to my recent need for pain killers I’ve formed the unfortunate habit of napping on car rides as the medication takes hold. Luckily my daughter is very good at filling the quiet with song and ideas and kept Jenn awake on the ride home with her chatter. It’s odd for me to be the passenger still. We’ve been close friends since we were fifteen and it never occurred to me that over the hundreds of times we’ve visited the coast that Jenn had never been in the driver’s seat. It was almost always me or our friend Leah. The fact that I can’t just hop into my car and drive still feels surreal, something I’m not sure I’ll ever get used to.
That leads to the whole need for pain killers thing. Back in April I had a run in with pneumonia that left a lot of water pressed between my chest wall and my lung. The pain was pretty bad, but it slowly started getting worse over the few weeks after I left the hospital. Both my husband and I figured it was the fluid not draining, as it wasn’t getting better like a rib break or a muscle sprain would. Because of so many possible factors that could contribute to chest pain for me, my doctor and I agreed to hold off on a scan until after my latest chemotherapy treatment. In the meantime the pain went from my shoulder blade and then down into the chest right under the bra. Sometimes a constant ache, other times sharp stabs, but it was always present. Sleeping comfortably has become near impossible. So hydrocodone was what I was given to hold off until we could properly diagnose the issue. I regret to say I need it daily now. There’s no shame in having to take the pain medication, I know this. I just detest having to rely on it with such frequency. The alternative though … not so pretty. I’m not the kindest person when I’m in pain, especially when the pain won’t go away. I say things, snap things…on those closest to me when I’m in pain because all I can think about is how to make the pain go away. Nobody around me deserves that. So I’ll buck up, kick my pride in the butt, and take the medication. I hate it, but I hate how pain makes me act so ugly a lot more.
There was also a minor incident about six weeks ago where I had a major dizzy spell while waiting for my daughter and husband to get their hair cut. It was briefly terrifying, giving me the impression at the time that I was going to experience a major seizure in the middle of the waiting room in front of several kids. The only seizure I’ve ever had, back in February, I don’t recall anything from…so I had no idea what to expect if I started experiencing one. Vertigo, dizziness, imbalance, my vision going wonky and my jaw locking up on one side. I sat there, trying to carry on conversation with the lady next to me to help distract me from the symptoms…until I noticed my speech was starting to slur. She noticed it, too, her expression going from friendly to confused…to a little concerned. We fell into silence for a few moments as the symptoms passed and I was left with a bit of dizziness at best. I fumbled through grocery shopping and then shortly after we took a quick trip to the ER to double check. Nothing came back to mark that I’d had a stroke, seizure, or anything of the like. The official diagnosis was, I believe, “It’s a thing…that happened?”
Probably one of my favorite medical summaries so far, one that had us joking with the doctor and nurses for a few minutes. Is it weird that I get along so easily with hospital staff?
Do we really need to answer that question?
Ehh…likely not.
I’ve had a few speech problems since then, but most I had attributed to the pain medication. Hydrocodone or any powerful pain medication tends to knock me out pretty quickly, so it wasn’t a surprise at all that I’d start sounding mildly drunk after taking it.
However, I really should start paying attention to my symptoms more. My body, while I pride myself on knowing it really well, loves to throw curve balls at me. I know better than to expect anything ‘textbook’ (my cyberknife therapy) to turn out as such. I try not to be paranoid, but every time I turn around cancer finds a new and not so entertaining way of keeping me on my toes.
Now I know that I posted the picture of my first brain tumor back earlier in the year, possibly at the end of last year. That’s right. I said first. It is my pleasure to say that the cyberknife treatment worked beautifully on that first tumor and it is now a bit of dead tissue shaped like a tiny jelly bean that is slowly fading away. As it fades I’ve also noticed any vision problems I was having have also done the same. Unfortunately it decided to invite a few more unwanted guests.
Yeah, that’s one of three new tumors in my brain that have popped up. Obviously the biggest. When I asked what sort of side effects might happen with a tumor in that location, the doctor swiveled in his chair to look me over and asked, “Have you had any slurred speech or balance problems?”
Hindsight is always 20/20. The good news for these is that they can be treated in the same way as the last, but we won’t be taking me off the steroids quite so quickly this time while we’re doing it. My doctors came to the conclusion that halving my steroid dosage at the same time I had my cyberknife therapy last time was likely what caused my grand mal seizure. As much as I dislike steroids…I think avoiding a seizure might be the dominant priority here. This does mean no driving for a bit longer. Who knows, maybe it’ll be a good Christmas present at this rate? One can hope. My van is getting pretty dusty and is in dire need of some cleaning.
As for the rest of the scan? I can’t say it’s good. Sometimes pictures are worth a thousand words, so let’s start with that…
Unfortunately the cancer has metastasized considerably. There’s no way to pretty it up. This means my current chemotherapy isn’t working and I will be facing radiation again. Those who have been following my blog or that know me will realize that localized radiation is likely what got me into this mess in the first place. We’ve surmised that it caused the breast cancer and the lung cancer even though it completely destroyed my Hodgkin’s Lymphoma. But we’ve tried immunotherapy and just about every chemotherapy we can fathom. Some have slowed it, some temporarily got rid of it…but every time you go through chemo your body starts to build up a resistance to it. You can’t often do a treatment again after you stop, so our options are pretty limited. Luckily the liver and kidneys are areas that haven’t been radiated before on my body. While they are a cause for concern, it’s considerably less so than what’s going on inside my head. My body won’t be worth a damn if my head no longer functions. So…head first, and then the body. I will be in months worth of radiation treatment at this rate, but it’s to be expected.
This leads to a question that some have asked me. Have I been given a time? No. I don’t ask for one. These therapies will extend my life for a while, but there’s no guarantee that they will rid me of the cancer. Especially if you consider that my upper right lung is riddled with tumors (and not fluid anymore at all). Those we’re not even sure what to do with just yet.
There is one chemotherapy that my insurance company has denied more than once, stating each time that we need to look into a chemotherapy that is meant for lung cancer treatment. It doesn’t seem to matter that each time we’ve pointed out that we have done these therapies and that they aren’t working. The beautiful picture up above dictates that pretty clearly. You would think it’d be obvious, but when companies just look at the paperwork and not the person it’s hard to get the message through. We’ve exhausted just about every chemo out there.
So now I have a court date with a lawyer in August. I have the option to not show as it’s presented to the insurance board…but I plan on paying them a visit. I am not a frail thing, ready to die. I have two kids, a husband, a puppy and friends and family that need me. I have a strong will to live and desire to at the very least see my kids graduate from high school. If that means I have to show up ready to lay my situation down in vivid detail in front of a panel of strangers then I will do it. In my experience showing up in person almost always gets the point across much more clearly than on paper. I will not be written off as an unfortunate case or a sad story.
Don’t get me wrong though, I know this cancer will kill me eventually. Ever since lung cancer started rearing it’s head repeatedly I’ve not since been under the delusion that I would live a long and drawn out life. In truth I’m pretty sure I’ll never see my 50th birthday, the same age that my aunt died. The same age my sister’s mom died. Their deaths described as tragic and how they went too young at an age that I am almost one hundred percent certain I will never see.
That doesn’t mean I give up, though. I have no intention of letting cancer dictate when I go for as long as I can help it.